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It’s too late. You’re too old.

As I’m writing this, I’m 35 years old. Which really isn’t that old from where I’m sitting right now. 20 years ago, it seemed pretty ancient. But it really doesn’t seem like I should be able to use the phrase “20 years ago,” and I definitely don’t feel like I’m half-way to 70.

I’m betting when I get to 50 it won’t seem that old either. Maybe even not at 70.

I was 29 when I started my business. Just on the cusp of 30. I was scared out of my mind, and not entirely sure I shouldn’t just get a job. Conventional wisdom said to stick my kids in day care and work. My kids were all under 3 years old, and quite frankly, I was not interested in having them raised by someone else. Especially not in a group environment. Besides, can you imagine how much I’d be paying in childcare for 3 little ones??

But, I’m not exactly one to follow conventional wisdom. Nope, not me. I did my own thing. I made my own way. I found a few gigs writing for various websites. Some paid, some didn’t. But I got my hustle on.

I didn’t even end up sticking with just writing. I’m a smart girl, and I found I had a knack for assisting entrepreneurs in running their businesses online. Oh, and I realized that even though I love to write,  I hate writing on a deadline. I called myself a Virtual Assistant for a time – until I found that the thing I really really loved was designing and developing websites.

My point is – I didn’t get it right away. It took 4 years to get from “I’m making money” to “I can’t wait to work today!”

And I wasn’t exactly a spring chicken when I did get it.

I know many (many, many) people who are quite a bit older than me, who are stuck. They have been working a job they hate for far too long. They figure they might as well just stick with it. Retirement is right around the corner.

Or maybe, they are just scared. Scared that if they quit that $8/hr job, they won’t be able to find one. I’m sure you’ve heard on the news how there are NO jobs out there…right?

Well screw that.

If you are reading this and feel like I’m pointing my finger at you, I am.

Get up. Start something. Anything.

Even if you have to keep your day job for awhile, get your hustle on.

Sit down and have yourself a little “come-to-Jesus” chat with yourself. (It’s OKAY to talk to yourself. I do it all the time). What do you love to do? What would you do, even if no one paid you to do it? If you can’t figure out a way to make money from it, start by doing it for free. Volunteer for something. You never ever ever know what doors will open for you when you start doing what you love and you are helping other people.

If there is one thing I want you to get out of this, it’s this. Life is not easy. There are going to be ups and downs. But, God has a purpose for you. And in my experience, when I’m not doing something I love to do, life is harder. Which isn’t to say there won’t be hard times. There absolutely will be. But if you aren’t using your God-given talent for something, you’re going to feel the squeeze.

So today, please, do ONE thing to change your circumstances. Even if it’s just having the chat with yourself.

One final thing – don’t do something just because you see someone else doing it, and they are successful. You’re talent may be in the same realm, but you’re going to have to change it up a little. Make it your own thing. Put your own spin on it.

And just in case you didn’t get what I’m saying – the title is ironic. It is NOT too late. And you are NOT too old.


  1. Yes, yes, YES! Beautiful, Amanda. You’re so very right and you’ve expressed it so eloquently. I’ve missed your posts. Keep writing, girl! There are lots of us out here in the big wide world of the web who need to hear what you have to say.

  2. YES! I could not have said it better. We can change the course of our lives at ANY time we choose. Age and “time” are just excuses.

  3. I am 61, which if you think about it is half way to 122, and yet I don’t feel old at all. I spent 26 years as a psychologist and made good money, but it was enough to live on and not enough to get me out of debt. I started my own business 4 years ago and a year ago I quit my job as a psychologist. I have paid of all of my substantial credit card debt and have time freedom to do what I want so… you are right, It is not to late and you are not too old!

    • amanda says:

      That is awesome! I wish everyone would be brave enough to take a risk. It’s SO worth it.

      Good job on paying off the debt – it’s like a mountain is off your back isn’t it??

  4. You are back and with a bang! I’m not old either, 38 in a few days! I feel like I am just, just, just coming into my own. I sometimes have to take a breath when I see 25 year old entrepreneurs out there, but I always come back to remembering that my journey is what makes me special. It just took me longer to get here, but here only is because of that time. Love this. You. You know.

    • amanda says:

      Oh Hannah, you are so right. It’s all about you and your journey. I used to think the same thing – that they are so lucky to be on their path so young. But if I’d gone down that path, I know I wouldn’t have my kids, and they more than anything else are worth it.

  5. Kimberly Riggins says:

    Thank you Amanda. There have been days when I have wanted to throw in the towel because I think I am too old for this shit. But I persevere, push forward and keep pursuing my dreams. Hell, if I am 70 when I get there, does it really matter? I keep reminding myself of all the miracles I have found along the path. Amazing. Glad to see you are writing again. Honored to know you.

  6. Bri Saussy says:

    In so many ways our stories are similar. I started my business full time when I was 29-I did not have a child yet but shortly one would be on the way-it was such a risk and the rewards have been simply awesome. But in those early days it was just completing one task and moving on to the next-day in, day out-that’s what kept the “not enough” fear at bay!

  7. Jessica says:

    Oh hell yes! I love the spirit here — and I firmly believe age is only a number. (I started my family and reinvented my work life at 36!) It’s great to find you here, and I can’t wait to read more

  8. Amen to that, sister friend! It is NEVER too late to do what you were meant to do!

  9. Great post!! Love your writing. I’m on business #3 (first one also in my late 20’s) and am finally comfortable knowing that I just keep growing into my work. The better we get, the more exciting the challenges get!

  10. Amen..we suffer when we don’t fulfill our contracts, deeply. It has nothing to do with age.. we can feel it calling to us, hear the whispers, and the longer we put it off, the more it hurts.
    Loved reading this and love you and your talent and smarts and straight talking goodness..

  11. Very inspiring! I was that person. I used to be a school teacher and God kept pulling me in another direction, but everyone else kept saying you can’t leave, you’ve got such great benefits. Then a young teacher in our district got killed on the last day of school at the end-of-the-year school party. She had had too many and drove into a semi truck. I kept thinking about her and decided, if I died tomorrow I didn’t want to leave this earth with any regrets. So I left the public school system (at 42yr) shortly after that and now I do all kinds of fun stuff and help all kinds of great people on their spiritual journey. I agree, it’s NEVER too late. BTW…thanks for having commentluv ♥

    • amanda says:

      Love it Julie!! My husband was also a former teacher. He did NOT love it, and wanted to leave so badly. Finally after 10 yrs in, he’d had enough. He’s 2.5 years into being a general contractor and he’s sooooo happy now.

      Glad you took that leap. I can tell you are soooo happy.

  12. Share Ross says:

    Wooo! I can feel you talking to me in this Amanda! Besides the fact that I am one of the ladies who thinks 35 is oh so young… but yes! I have reinvented myself more times than you can shake a stick. And at many ages.
    I always figure… hey… nothing has to be forever. I will just try this for a while and see how it goes.

    But yeah… ya gotta dive in. Hustle. Put your energy into it. Having been a musician my whole life… some years with amazingly great success and other years were more like the great famine… I found I had to pick myself up and find other avenues.

    LOVE your writing voice. Muah!

    • amanda says:

      Why thank you Share! I imagine I’m not even close to being done with my reinventions.

      I used to think of myself as “flighty” because I didn’t stick with much for long. But now I think the word I meant was “flexible.” I got the first 2 letters right, but got confused on the rest… 🙂

  13. Sister, I hear you! I advocate for the same inspired living. I went back to graduate school at 30 to earn my Ph.D in psychology. I currently have my masters and graduate this December, at 35, with my doctorate. I have been life/love coaching for 2 years + began blogging one year ago. Talk about new, new + new adventures one after the other. It has been an overwhelming amount of work but couldn’t dream of doing anything else. It’s never too late to be you.

  14. No Regrets says:

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  15. hiser says:

    I think this can be summed up with: Whatever you do, do it with all your might. Work at it, early and late, in season and out of season, not leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well now.–P.T. Barnum

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